Every break-up must hurt, either you were the one who decided to break-up with your boyfriend or he is the one who broke up with you. Well, it is actually the process of being more mature, and it gives you a chance to learn from your mistakes that you will know what to do or not to do in the next relationship.
Unfortunately, not everyone can get through this process easily, some even wish to get rid of such process and decide to avoid the hurt by travelling abroad, shopping, eating whatever they want, looking for a new boyfriend, etc. Well there is no guarantee that you can avoid the pain of breaking-up with those methods. As a matter of fact, they can even cause you more pain if you don’t act wisely.
So what makes break-ups even hurt you more?
Getting a new boyfriend too soon
Having a new boyfriend instantly after a break-up will not make you forgetting your ex instantly. You will be trying so hard to find an ideal lover that during your searching, you might not allow yourself to know the person deeper because all you are trying to find in him are the standards you have in your mind. If you do this, your new relationship(s) will never last.
The only person you need to date with after a break-up is yourself. You need to realize what or how you actually feel before moving on to the next relationship.
Asking for final conversation
You will not need a last conversation if you are the one who end the relationship, but what if your boyfriend was the one who broke-up with you? Do you really need a final statement from him that he no longer wants to be with you?
Stop texting, calling, or mailing him and asking for explanation. If you feel you didn’t do anything wrong, than perhaps you aren’t meant to be together. Forcing an explanation from you ex will only hurt you more. First, he might tell you that you have done something unpleasant and later you might take that as your imperfection. While in fact, it is your attitude or your nature that may not be suitable for a man like him. Second, you will make yourself upset and angry that you will desperately terrorize your ex with phone call, SMS, and e-mail.
Keeping certain things that will bring the memories of him
Some of the best first efforts to get rid of your ex are to remove his account from your Facebook or Twitter account, delete the intimate text messages he sent you, or even his cell phone numbers. Well, this will be very painful at first but this will effectively help you to free yourself from the old binds. If he is really not worth to keep, then it is better to get rid everything about him from your life, and resume your whole life.
It is never easy to get through any break-up, but as time goes by you will slowly forget about it. Just take it like the efforts you make to lose weight. You will need to exercise, control your eating habit, and avoid every favorite treat you love. Those are not easy, you need focus and determination. Same thing with break-ups. Soon or later the pain will fade and disappear, and you will be ready to embrace new life with new relationship.
